You do not need a diagnosis to begin
These are some of the experiences that most often bring people to me. They are not lists of symptoms: they are ways of living that you may recognise from the inside.
When work grows bigger than your life
It starts slowly. You answer one message outside working hours, then another. You carry work into dinner, into the weekend, into bed. At some point you notice that resting no longer rests: the holiday ends and the tiredness is still there, untouched.
Then comes the most confusing part: you can still deliver, but everything costs far too much. Things that used to be simple have turned into mountains. Sunday evening tightens your chest. And there may be a strange guilt underneath it all, because other people have it worse and because this was the job you wanted.
In therapy we do not treat this as a personal failure of time management. We look at the relationship that has formed between you and your work: what it came to occupy in your life, what lost its place because of it, and what you want to do about a set of numbers that no longer adds up.
When the body lives in the future
It is living one step ahead of yourself: the conversation that has not happened yet, the email that has not arrived, the problem that does not even exist. The body reads all of this as a real threat and answers accordingly: racing heart, clenched jaw, light sleep, that knot in the stomach that wakes up with you.
From the outside, sometimes nobody notices. You function, you deliver, you smile. But inside there is an enormous, invisible effort just to get through an ordinary day. And when someone says "just relax", you want to laugh, because if it were that simple you would have relaxed already.
In therapy, anxiety is not treated as an enemy to be eliminated, but as something that concerns your actual life: what is at stake when it appears, what you feel you need to protect, what seems too big to get wrong. Understanding that changes the conversation you have with yourself.
When everything is fine except you
Seen from outside, nothing is missing: work, relationships, a routine that functions. But at some point a question settles in quietly: is this it? The things that used to bring pleasure have become automatic. You get through your days more than you live them.
This kind of restlessness usually arrives with some shame, because it can look like ingratitude. So people push it away, keep busy, change project, city, series, and the question comes back. It is not a flaw: it is one of the most human questions there is, and it deserves more than the answers offered by motivational quote apps.
The existential approach was born precisely for this ground. In therapy we make room for that question without rushing to silence it: what lost its meaning, when, and in the name of what. Not to find a ready-made answer, but so that you can become the author of your own life again, rather than only its passenger.
When every conversation turns into the same fight
Every argument seems to start from a different topic and end up in the same place. One of you speaks, the other defends, and both walk away feeling unheard. Over time you learn to avoid certain subjects, and silence takes up the space where conversation used to be.
Sometimes there is no fighting at all, and that is the worrying part: you have become good logistics partners, sharing bills, calendars and a home, but you no longer really know how the other is doing. Or something happened, a move, a loss, a breach of trust, and the relationship has not yet found a way to go on.
In couples therapy I am nobody's judge. I am not there to decide who is right, but to help you both see what happens between you: what each of you lives, what each of you expects, and what gets lost on the way from one to the other. This holds whether you want to stay together or need to decide whether you will.
Sessions are with both of you, by video call, in the same room or each from wherever you are, and last 50 minutes. The session fee is 80 US dollars, for both of you. You can book the first one directly on the site or, if you would rather talk first, message me on WhatsApp.
No serious psychologist promises results. What I can guarantee is presence, method and seriousness, session after session.
Did you recognise yourself in any of this?
You do not need to be sure of anything to take the first step. Message me on WhatsApp and we can talk with no commitment.
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